So you hear it all the time. Stay positive. As if it’s a magic word. It’s easier said than done sometimes. In a perfect world we would all be smiling and happy with everything we want in life without a care in the world but that wouldn’t be realistic now would it.
Shit happens! Let’s be real. We all climb the totem pole and try get to the top but there’s nearly always a time when we slip at different points or some little shit head starts flinging shit at you when your doing so well and starting to get the knack of climbing. It makes you question yourself, your methods right? If only someone could knock those other people upside the head and tell them to piss off bothering other people just trying to climb. Well, you can! More often then not we surround ourselves with situations, environments and people that don’t benefit us. We don’t always realize it either. We can focus on the negative and how we are always failing, we have to be doing something wrong. And we are right, we are doing something wrong. So the easiest way is to stop and regroup.
Just because you stop climbing for a minute to change how you get there doesn’t mean you won’t get where you need to be. It might take longer but hey, at least you might lose the people around you who are just flinging those poop balls of negativity, maybe the remaining people will be the people you choose to keep around who help and support you, who cheer you on from the sidelines. Maybe you approach how you climb differently and it gets easier to get a foothold on your goal.
One thing I have learned over my 31 years of life is that not everyone in your life is meant to be there. Places I go, jobs I take, they all play a part. I choose how my life goes, me! And only me. I could choose to sit on the couch all day, not get things done and slowly but surely I will feel awful in myself. But I have to fight myself every day and get what I need done. I know it’s so hard for some people. I was like that. It can be such a battle at times but I had to fight myself daily, and you can too.
I found joy in the little things. Things I hated like cleaning my house, organizing, gardening. The first thing I did was buy a super cute organizer. Me and my mam got the same one from the happy planner. They have the cutest binder type organizers with stickers and quotes, a bit pricey but it was all I needed. You can personalize it and I love to sit down and focus on that for me time.
Every night I sit down and write a list of things that need to be done, room, by room. I mark in the calendar important appointments etc because I’m very forgetful. As the day goes on I constantly check my list and use a highlighter to tick off all I have done. It really helps me to stay on track and at the end of the day there is no better feeling than seeing a fully completed list to make me feel good for accomplishing something in my day. A tidy house really helps the mind. As does an organized one. I found for me anyway being surrounded in chaos created chaos.
I also started a little vegetable garden and herb garden which gets me outside and I love seeing when things grow and we can eat them and so do the kids love that. Everyone is different. And it’s hard sometimes to find what you love when you struggle to enjoy anything at all. But start small. Set your alarm and force yourself up in the morning. Go for a walk. 20-30 mins. Breathe in the fresh air. Stop and smell the roses literally, look around and appreciate what’s around you. Then go back and just pick something small. Your underwear drawer, your wardrobe, throw away old clothes, just start there and start cleaning. Keep a diary, write down your feelings, and really think about who you keep around you, clean out Facebook, cut down screen time hours, small changes can lead to big successes and really help you climb higher to feeling good and positive.
It’s not always easy. I have been there. I have felt the lowest of the low and never thought I would get out of it. I’m feeling so much happier these days and I’m climbing steady. I may not be exactly where I want to be, but I’m surrounded by the people in my life who I want in my life, I am happy and I have goals and dreams like the next person and I’m going to get there when the time is right and you will too.
The Duffy’s diary 